Dealbeakers

This past Tuesday, Melanie and I met up at the Valley Mall after Melanie got off work and like so many times before, we went to Starbucks. After we had coffee, Melanie told me that even if someone was the cutest guy in the world, she would never date a smoker because Melanie has seen what smoking did to her aunt.
It made me wonder what Melanie really would do if the cutest guy in the world did hit on her and smoked. It also made me wonder, what are deal breakers in relationships? People are a combination of good and bad qualities. That's why they are so confusing.
My friend Matt says she can't be a bitch. According to allwomenstalk.com, the most common dealbreakers are:
1. forgetting to be faithful
2.no chemistry or biology
3. trying to mold their partner into their own mental images of what they think their partner should be like.
4.jealously
5. insecurity
6.misdirected prioritization
7. communication breakdown
8. an unhealed wound
9.overflowing expectations
10. letting yourself go
Today it seems like we're taught if someone does not live up to your expectations, it's ok to give them the boot.I have to admit, I pride myself on not being easy. In fact last summer, I ended up writing a list of 100 things I want in a guy because a friend of mine told me about a women who talked about doing that on Oprah. I've even been out with a guy that every parent hopes their daughter will end up with. However we're not together because while he looked good on paper and in person, we're not right for one another.
After that, I think instead of figuring out what's a dealbreaker when it comes to romance, we should really be asking ourselves does this person make me happy? After all, that's what really matters in the end.