Over a game of pool, Israel and I discussed dating books we read. Israel said the book he read did not help him get a girlfriend at all and he is currently in a relationship with someone. On the other hand, I think the book I read is true for the most part and I am not seeing anyone at the moment. I don’t know what is in the book Israel read, but in the book I read it says if a guy disappears on you, he is just not that into you. I have had a guy disappear on me after one date. We got back in contact a month later and he said he just wanted a friendship.
The discussion made me wonder, am I so by the book that I make myself miss out on opportunities? I know there are alot of books out there on dating. I know I can be prissy and I tend to say no more than I say yes. I still am old fashioned with some things like I believe the guy should ask the girl out first and be the one to propose marriage.
But I also know each relationship is special and unique. Everyone has different circumstances and they make their relationship work in a way that benefits both of them.
So perhaps dating isn't about going by a book or set of rules. Perhaps it's like creative writing- you learn the rules so you know when to break them.
