Over burgers at Red Robin, my friend Devi told me her co worker is getting pressured to find someone. When I heard that I was like what? After all, it's not like you know when you're going to meet "the one" you're romantically compatible with in almost every way and want to marry like you know what color shirt you're wearing. Another friend of mine has said he was depressed before he met the girl he’s sort of/ kind of seeing.
I have been told to find someone. I have also been told it can wait.
I think that's why I walk the fine line of ambivalence.
But it made me wonder, why is it if we have noone it sometimes feels like we have nothing?
I like being able to go and do what I please without having to worry about someone else’s schedule but my own. I had fun just driving up to Leavenworth for spring break with my friends from school. I also like being able to talk to who I want to.
However, I also know there is no greater connection then that between a man and a woman.
I was wondering about all this when I got a blast from the past. The teacher’s assistant I called it quits with in April decided to text me two days ago. It went from how’s it going to asking me about something intimate and I'll leave it at that. It doesn't matter anyway because I ended up telling him that I couldn’t start things up again. If the texting continued I knew it would be more of the I want you in bed but I'm too busy for a relationship tennis match again. After the first match, I wasn't up for another game.
However, the text made me remember, what’s more important than if someone is interested in me or not, is what I think of myself. After all that’s the person I’m going to be in a relationship with no matter who else comes and goes in my life. I think that’s the real key to true happiness . :0)
Friday, June 25, 2010
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Gramatically correct?
I got a message from a guy on ok cupid. What stuck out the most about this message is not the content, but the fact he does not capitalize the first words in his sentences when he writes and hardly punctuates. One of my friends came to the conclusion that he’s an overall nice guy and I should continue messaging him. It made me wonder, was I being too judgmental? After all, I never met the guy. So what if he’s not a writer? We can’t all be Ernest Hemingway. I know I’m not one to talk about grammar. It's still one of my weakest points when it comes to the writing process. Plus, I know I still make mistakes and typos when I write sometimes. That's why the only good kind of writing as someone put it "is rewriting." So should I just keep my keyboard and lips sealed?
But on a dating site, you want to be seen in the best light possible. Showing you can use proper grammar when you’re sending someone a message is a good thing! I’m not saying you have to write a best –selling novel. (Well, unless of course, you want to.) However, you want your profile and messages to at least look like you passed a high school English class.
To top it off, on my profile it says I like writing and I hope to make a career out of it. Meaning, of course I’m going to notice major grammatical errors like that. So maybe his messages are an indicator we may not be the best match after all.
But on a dating site, you want to be seen in the best light possible. Showing you can use proper grammar when you’re sending someone a message is a good thing! I’m not saying you have to write a best –selling novel. (Well, unless of course, you want to.) However, you want your profile and messages to at least look like you passed a high school English class.
To top it off, on my profile it says I like writing and I hope to make a career out of it. Meaning, of course I’m going to notice major grammatical errors like that. So maybe his messages are an indicator we may not be the best match after all.
Friday, June 18, 2010
Green or yellow?
January 30, 2010
I decided to go to the spotlight dance on February 12th with my friend Viktoryia. It's our Valentine’s Day treat to ourselves and plus we both like dancing! :0) At the stoplight dance you're supposed to wear green if you're single, yellow if it's complicated and red if you're taken. After agreeing to go I realized I didn't know what color to wear. I know it sounds ridiculous. After all I should know if I’m single, taken, or if it’s complicated right?
The thing is, there is someone and I would say the color of our relationship is more of a green- yellow.
At first I thought well,I should be wearing yellow if we're in what I call the grey area. If it's in the grey area that means it’s complicated. What's wrong with being in the grey area anyway?
What exactly is the grey area? It's that area you're in when you're more than friends but not an official couple. The grey area is actually pretty big. After all we have one night stands, friends with benefits, fake dates, and then the people we are actually dating. I admit I'm used to being in that area. But I have realized the grey area only seems like a fun place to stay. Eventually you want to know if you are going anywhere with the person you're seeing or not.
I also realized I don’t want to spend the night explaining why my relationship with someone else is in the grey area. So I will wear a green scarf to the dance. When the time is right, the lady in the green scarf will become the lady in red. ; 0p
I decided to go to the spotlight dance on February 12th with my friend Viktoryia. It's our Valentine’s Day treat to ourselves and plus we both like dancing! :0) At the stoplight dance you're supposed to wear green if you're single, yellow if it's complicated and red if you're taken. After agreeing to go I realized I didn't know what color to wear. I know it sounds ridiculous. After all I should know if I’m single, taken, or if it’s complicated right?
The thing is, there is someone and I would say the color of our relationship is more of a green- yellow.
At first I thought well,I should be wearing yellow if we're in what I call the grey area. If it's in the grey area that means it’s complicated. What's wrong with being in the grey area anyway?
What exactly is the grey area? It's that area you're in when you're more than friends but not an official couple. The grey area is actually pretty big. After all we have one night stands, friends with benefits, fake dates, and then the people we are actually dating. I admit I'm used to being in that area. But I have realized the grey area only seems like a fun place to stay. Eventually you want to know if you are going anywhere with the person you're seeing or not.
I also realized I don’t want to spend the night explaining why my relationship with someone else is in the grey area. So I will wear a green scarf to the dance. When the time is right, the lady in the green scarf will become the lady in red. ; 0p
Accurate Quiz result
Friday, February 12, 2010
Suprisingly accurate quiz
Category: Romance and Relationships
The Priss Deliberate Brutal Love Dreamer (DBLD)
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Mature. Responsible. Aristocratic. Excuse me. The Priss.
Prisses are the smartest of all female types. You’re highly perceptive, and confident in your judgements. You’d take brutal honesty over superficiality any time—your friends always know where they stand with you. You’re completely unfake. Don’t tell me that’s not a word. You’re also excellent at redirecting internal negative energy.
These facts indicate people are often intimidated by you. They also fall for you, hard. You have a distant, composed allure that many find irresistible. If only more of them lived up to your standards.
You were probably the last among your friends to have sex. And the first to pretend that you’re pregnant. LOL. Though you’re inclined to use sex as weapon, at least it’s not as one of mass destruction. You’re choosier than most about your partners. A supportive relationship is what you’re really after. Whether you know it or not, you need something steady & long-term. And soothing.
Upon getting this quiz result on ok cupid I thought I am not a priss! I like to have fun just as much as the next person. :0P Ofcourse I want someone to go on adventures with, among other things.
But after thinking about it, the quiz was right on target.
I began to wonder if being a priss a good thing or a bad thing. I read an article that talked about how if girls are too promiscuous they’re labeled as sluts, whores or an easy lay. But if girls don’t appear to be promiscuous at all they’re man haters or a tease. So we’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t.
But I have also come to discover I really like the person I’m starting to become. I have some money, I’m almost done with school. I enjoy writing, theatre and being ABLE secretary. Call me crazy ,but it actually felt good to be in the CDS office and talk about the simulations I’m going to help out with for Disabilities Awareness Week.
I keep busy in my personal life too. I just attended a dinner and show in honor of the Chinese New Year, which had amazing food. Friday I’m going to a dance and my best friend’s birthday is this coming weekend as well. The weekend after this one I’m going to see Avenue Q and the weekend after that is my friend Becky’s wedding and I will be helping write a speech for it as well as ushering and helping with make- up. I even learned that I can actually cook. As for being picky , I don’t see why I should ask for less then what I want. You don’t want to reject someone over something minor. But I just don’t see how anyone can settle for less than butterflies.
Suprisingly accurate quiz
Category: Romance and Relationships
The Priss Deliberate Brutal Love Dreamer (DBLD)
............................................................................
Mature. Responsible. Aristocratic. Excuse me. The Priss.
Prisses are the smartest of all female types. You’re highly perceptive, and confident in your judgements. You’d take brutal honesty over superficiality any time—your friends always know where they stand with you. You’re completely unfake. Don’t tell me that’s not a word. You’re also excellent at redirecting internal negative energy.
These facts indicate people are often intimidated by you. They also fall for you, hard. You have a distant, composed allure that many find irresistible. If only more of them lived up to your standards.
You were probably the last among your friends to have sex. And the first to pretend that you’re pregnant. LOL. Though you’re inclined to use sex as weapon, at least it’s not as one of mass destruction. You’re choosier than most about your partners. A supportive relationship is what you’re really after. Whether you know it or not, you need something steady & long-term. And soothing.
Upon getting this quiz result on ok cupid I thought I am not a priss! I like to have fun just as much as the next person. :0P Ofcourse I want someone to go on adventures with, among other things.
But after thinking about it, the quiz was right on target.
I began to wonder if being a priss a good thing or a bad thing. I read an article that talked about how if girls are too promiscuous they’re labeled as sluts, whores or an easy lay. But if girls don’t appear to be promiscuous at all they’re man haters or a tease. So we’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t.
But I have also come to discover I really like the person I’m starting to become. I have some money, I’m almost done with school. I enjoy writing, theatre and being ABLE secretary. Call me crazy ,but it actually felt good to be in the CDS office and talk about the simulations I’m going to help out with for Disabilities Awareness Week.
I keep busy in my personal life too. I just attended a dinner and show in honor of the Chinese New Year, which had amazing food. Friday I’m going to a dance and my best friend’s birthday is this coming weekend as well. The weekend after this one I’m going to see Avenue Q and the weekend after that is my friend Becky’s wedding and I will be helping write a speech for it as well as ushering and helping with make- up. I even learned that I can actually cook. As for being picky , I don’t see why I should ask for less then what I want. You don’t want to reject someone over something minor. But I just don’t see how anyone can settle for less than butterflies.
A mocktail, Margarita ,green scarf, blue harvest and oh la la boots.
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Melanie has a lunchdate with a guy she's been crushing on for a while. My friend Beck is getting married in a few weeks. Meanwhile I sit here with ramen and a cup of coffee. I think Valentines Day is the hardest day of the year to be single. It's the time of year when everyone makes plans with their significant other, reminding you that you don't have one. On top of that, stores everywhere all of a sudden get covered with red, pink and purple hearts with signs like "Be mine."
My only plans include meeting my friend Matt for Starbucks and then heading to Yakima so I can be at a birthday celebration tomorrow afternoon.
I went to go to the stoplight dance with Viktoryia on the 12th however when we got to the dance, only ten people where there. So we had a mocktail and left less than ten minutes later. I was still wearing my green scarf. Viktoryia was still in her what she refers to as her "oh la la " boots. So we decided to go to Ellensburg Pasta company only to get there just as it closed. Dissapointed we headed back to campus. We discovered that the Mexican restaurant by our place was still open. So we had a meal in there. She had a virgin margarita while I had the real thing.
After that I introduced her to "Blue Harvest." For those who don't know Blue Harvest is a Family Guy parody of Star Wars episode 4. My favorite part will always be when Lois who is supposed to be Princess Leia is making her message to Obi Wan Kenobi. After she says "help us Obi Wan Kenobi you're our only hope," she asks the R2D2 unit what is buffering. He responds "It means wait a minute." That is so me when it comes to technology. Seriously I'm suprised I can even text.
I learned that night noone should ask either one of us for directions. We had a little trouble finding the pasta restaurant because she was following me when I thought I was following her. Sadly this was before my strawberry margarita.
I also learned that it really doesn't matter what your relationship status is this time of year. I had fun with Viktoryia that night. I still got to be the lady in the green scarf. She got to walk around Ellensburg in her "oh la la" boots that night. I think what really matters is you have people who really care about you and as long as you have that, you can't go wrong. There are people who call Valentine's Day single awareness day or who are just not into this particular holiday. I just say I hope everyone has a great Feburary 14th no matter what their relationship status is.
Melanie has a lunchdate with a guy she's been crushing on for a while. My friend Beck is getting married in a few weeks. Meanwhile I sit here with ramen and a cup of coffee. I think Valentines Day is the hardest day of the year to be single. It's the time of year when everyone makes plans with their significant other, reminding you that you don't have one. On top of that, stores everywhere all of a sudden get covered with red, pink and purple hearts with signs like "Be mine."
My only plans include meeting my friend Matt for Starbucks and then heading to Yakima so I can be at a birthday celebration tomorrow afternoon.
I went to go to the stoplight dance with Viktoryia on the 12th however when we got to the dance, only ten people where there. So we had a mocktail and left less than ten minutes later. I was still wearing my green scarf. Viktoryia was still in her what she refers to as her "oh la la " boots. So we decided to go to Ellensburg Pasta company only to get there just as it closed. Dissapointed we headed back to campus. We discovered that the Mexican restaurant by our place was still open. So we had a meal in there. She had a virgin margarita while I had the real thing.
After that I introduced her to "Blue Harvest." For those who don't know Blue Harvest is a Family Guy parody of Star Wars episode 4. My favorite part will always be when Lois who is supposed to be Princess Leia is making her message to Obi Wan Kenobi. After she says "help us Obi Wan Kenobi you're our only hope," she asks the R2D2 unit what is buffering. He responds "It means wait a minute." That is so me when it comes to technology. Seriously I'm suprised I can even text.
I learned that night noone should ask either one of us for directions. We had a little trouble finding the pasta restaurant because she was following me when I thought I was following her. Sadly this was before my strawberry margarita.
I also learned that it really doesn't matter what your relationship status is this time of year. I had fun with Viktoryia that night. I still got to be the lady in the green scarf. She got to walk around Ellensburg in her "oh la la" boots that night. I think what really matters is you have people who really care about you and as long as you have that, you can't go wrong. There are people who call Valentine's Day single awareness day or who are just not into this particular holiday. I just say I hope everyone has a great Feburary 14th no matter what their relationship status is.
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