In the book Sex and the City (which the TV. show was based off of), Candace Bushnell said the reason we’re single is because we want to be. When I first read that line I thought, that is not true. I mean after all, she doesn’t know the men I’ve dated, tried to date or my personal circumstances. So how does she know I want to be single? When I told that to Gary, the father of my friend Matt he said,” I think Matt wants to be in a relationship.” I didn’t know how to respond to that at the time because I know Matt likes the ladies. So they know, he is available and since he’s Jewish, you know he’s kosher. ;0)
But I have come to realize that the Sex and the City writer was right. (Although, this is the only place I will ever openly admit this. ;0P) I have been invited to Ohio and Illinois by two different guys. One I met in Wisconsin when I was camping. Another I met when I was in Florida. Both of them made it clear what kind of fun they wanted to have if I visited. But I am not in Ohio or Illinois. I am still here in Yakima, Washington. So I know I am here because I want to be. I wonder what would have happened if I took one of their invites. Maybe the fact I didn’t is a sign that I am still looking for the one who’s willing to cross a mountain for me since I’ve already been halfway around the world. Nether less, I’ve made my bed and I will sleep in it.
I really like what you had to say. Actually it makes sens
ReplyDeletee to NOT cross mountains for the man, let him do it for you! :).
I do not believe however that people are single by choice. Sometimes it is destiny.
How good or bad it feels to you is what matters most.
There is a wonderful book called 'Celebrating the Single Life' That I found quite helpful.
I think it is smart on another level to stay right where you are... these internet guys can be fine, then again it could all be smoke and mirrors or worse.
Katjusa Roquette from Yakima Gulag Literary Gazett