After a job interview I had recently, the manager concluded the interview with a simple message: “If you don't hear from us in two weeks, assume the position has been filled.”
Why isn’t it that simple when it comes to dating?
After a date with a guy, if he doesn’t call after a couple of weeks have gone by, the girl he went out with wonders -is it because of a family emergency? Or, is the position of girlfriend going to someone else? In order to find out what she said that was so desperate and needy, that he had no other option but to head for the hills, the debate to call or not begins.
If someone didn’t get the job she applied for, she knows that she can always apply for another job. But it is harder to have that kind of attitude when it comes to romance, because she doesn’t know when she is going to meet someone interesting.
According to 101 Reasons Why Men Stop Calling & What You Must Do About It, by Elaine M.D., the best thing to do when a guy stops calling is to not call him. If a guy really is interested in the girl he just went on a date with, he will get in contact with her when it’s convenient for him.
According to Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, co authors of He’s Just Not That Into You, “you have good reason to want to spend a lot of energy solving the Mystery of the Disappearing Man. But all those excuses, however valid they are, will not help you in the long run. Because the only part of the story that’s important to remember is he didn’t want to be with you anymore. And he didn’t have the guts to tell you that to your face. Case closed.”
There are people out there who will say if a guy has not been in contact with a girl after a couple of weeks to go ahead and give him a call. Maybe he just forgot to call. After all he has a life ,too. However, even though people are busy, isn’t the whole point of dating to find someone they want to include in their life?
So maybe dating is as simple as a job interview. If the person a girl goes on a date with wants the position of girlfriend to be filled by her, he won't leave her hanging.
Some girls manage to get back in touch with a guy that has disappeared. But, as much as good as it feels to hear why the guy hasn’t been in contact, there are better options then the guy with the really “good excuse.” If he were a superhero, the metropolitan city he inhabits would never be saved, and the damsel would still be in distress. We want the superhero that defeats his nemesis, saves the world and gets the girl in the end.
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